I’m sure most of us can agree with this statement:

One day a year really isn’t enough recognition for everything a mother actually does.

Sure, roles are changing – dads are stepping up a little more.

Being a guy, though, I can safely say that we get way more notoriety for our transition into parenthood than our female counterparts. Everyone points out how much we’ve grown in order to fill the fatherhood shoes. That old adage that “women are meant to be nurturers” comes to mind.

I’m known to cut against the grain though, so bear with me…

Traditionally, everyone celebrates their own mother on Mother’s Day. However, I think we should look at it a little differently. I think that we should celebrate the mother of our children the same way we do our own mom.

In today’s post, I want to share with you exactly why I have that thesis.

1. Mom Is Okay with Being the Invisible Woman

This particular one is changing as society adapts to accommodate necessity, but still:

Mom’s willingly perform a lot of daily tasks that go completely unnoticed.

Most of the things I’m talking about here are actually necessities. They’re jobs that no one really wants to do. Although, eyebrows would be raised if they weren’t getting done.

On its own, no one job is difficult. When they’re lumped together into a daily routine, however, they become a challenge. Especially for larger families (like mine – 3 kids, 2 adults).

Things like:

  • laundry
  • house cleaning
  • cooking
  • running errands

All of that, while rearing children.

Many women give up a lot in exchange for a place backstage.

For example:

My wife was on her way to Julliard before we settled down and set up shop. She had a very bright, eventful future ahead of her. She could’ve been doing what she loves – acting, or even teaching in that space.

She gave that up to become a stay-at-home, work-from-home, mom.

Don’t misunderstand me, she’s happy. She’s extremely supportive of the kids and me in everything we do. She also has the same level of support in anything she wants to do.

I’m just trying to stress how amazing mothers can be.

2. Mom’s EQ Is Off the Charts

I’m not saying that fathers don’t have emotional intelligence. I’m saying:

Anyone can be a people-person, but mothers are borderline clairvoyant.

A woman spends nine months physically attached to her child. That’s when it all starts. She is getting to know your little one’s moods when they first form.

So, basically, she has a headstart.

Later, when your infant or toddler is fussy (for no apparent reason), mom steps into baby-whisperer. Even as the kids get older, she’s still capable of empathizing with them over those little tragedies that dad thinks are silly.

Again, maybe it’s just me but…

Mothers are phenomenal at:

  • determining needs
  • calming emotions
  • averting sticky situations

It’s awesome to watch my wife deal with the inconsolable.

There are times that I’ll run through everything in the book to calm our children – no success. Then, she can step in and put the fire right out. It’s like a magic trick where you can’t quite figure out how it works.

3. Mom is the Most Talented Professor Ever

From the time a child is born, they need to be molded and shaped into a person. More specifically, a person who is prepared to tackle the challenges of life.

This may be my opinion, but I’ll say mothers do most of the teaching.

Fathers are known more for “imparting knowledge” – life lessons so to speak. Our educational role is usually more philosophical. Moms, on the other hand, teach the kids how to function.

The curriculum includes:

  • Walking
  • Talking
  • Eating
  • Potty etiquette
  • Colors
  • Shapes
  • And more…!

Mothers serve as the parental equivalent of boots on the ground.

My wife teaches our kids everything, basically by herself. She still does. She’s a stay-at-home mom and I have always worked a lot – so that’s just how things played out. (Everyone’s situation is different.)

Regardless, she​ does an outstanding job.

She doesn’t just teach the kids, though – I’ve been learning too.

The number one thing I think I’ve learned, is that parents should appreciate one another. Over time, we become complacent. We begin to see everything as just another part of the routine when it’s really a display of dedication – to your kids and to one another.

So on this Mother’s Day:

Make sure the moms in your life really feel your love and compassion for what they do.



If you read this far, thank you. I hope you enjoyed it. Maybe you even found some value in it. That’s really the reason I take the time to provide you with my $0.02. I know that getting an outside opinion can be helpful.

Love it or hate it, let me know in the comments below.

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Derek Holder
Husband to my childhood sweetheart. Father of three - 2, 6 and 9. Metaphysically wrinkle-free.