One of the sweetest memories I have of my kids is when my oldest daughter met her little sister for the first time. She had gotten to have a “sleep over” with one of our friends. When I picked her up she gave me the usual happy little girl greeting of running at me and yelling, “Daddy!” Her little two year old legs couldn’t carry her fast enough to me.
I proceeded to tell her that her sister was on the outside now and that we were going to meet her. We would visit mommy and sister soon. It was one of a handful of times that getting dressed and ready to go somewhere was not a struggle.
We had a few stops along the way and my sweet girl couldn’t help but tell everyone she was going to meet her new sister. I had the stroke of genius to video the moment of them meeting on my phone which we all like to watch every so often. We opened the door and walked into the room.
“Is that baby RaRa? Can I hold her?” G asked. We got her up onto the bed with mom and sister G and RaRa met for the first time.
“She’s cute,” G said through the biggest grin ever and she gave her a kiss on the forehead. It was one of the most adorable moments we have had with the girls.
Transitioning from One to Two
We received hundreds of tips from friends and family. Many about how to overcome the challenges of transitioning from one to two children. Much of what we heard wasn’t different from what they said about going from none to one.
I used to think that all advice is equal. Now, I see that the best advice we received came from people who shared their stories of what they did. And the best advice I received as a father was this:
“Each one of your children will be different. One might be more passive and creative. The other might be active and aggressive. One might excel in physical growth. The other might excel in more mental growth. You love and foster the differences in their personalities.”
This came from a father of four children. All different. All wonderful little boys and girls. Never once did he say we would have to do this program or habit. He said that we needed to acknowledge their differences. And help them grow into the little girls we hope they will become.
My wife and I are intentional people. We work hard to do everything with a purpose. When we introduced our girls to each other, we wanted it to be a special moment. And it was. My only piece of advice about making the transition from one to two children is this:
“Study your new child to learn their temperament and personality. Help your older child acknowledge the differences in their personalities. And model how you interact with them in different ways to show your equal love for them.”
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If you have two kids, how did you transition from one to two children? What was the best piece of advice that you received about making the transition? If you have your second child on the way, what are you most worried or concerned about in making the transition?